I have a library of about 30,000 songs on my dying laptop. .....but only 17,000 of them are in my djing collection.
Basically, I use the iTunes node in tractor for my music management. Delete all the stuff you won't play from your iTunes collection. Then only import your iTunes stuff in to traitor.
If you need to play something that's not in iTunes, you can still search for it on your computer & drag it in to traktor.
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