How to approach. *Please read*

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How to approach. Please read

I believe this is a high priority thread.

Here we go:

When I first got interested in music I started to go to real clubs and parties, graduations etc, I was 14 years old, I started buying tons of music, mostly EDM, and I now I have a huge music library of around 10.000 songs and it keeps growing day by day. When I got to 15, I had the desire to start mixing, so I researched, I went into the internet and searched what to get, how to mix, downloaded Virtual DJ Home, etc. I found DigitalDJTips and DJTechTools which are what used to be my facebook and twitter. I researched day by day, new gear, new music, mixing tips, I mapped my keyboard, but at one point about 3 months later after my birthday I decided I needed a controller. So I did alot of research, and based on my savings, I had a list of:

  1. Vestax VCI100

  2. Traktor Audio 2

  3. A pair of M-Audio Studiophiles

  4. Allen & Heath Xone XD:40

  5. Traktor PRO 2

After I had all my money and what I wanted to buy figured out, I had to approach my parents. -This is where the topic comes in- I didn’t know how to approach them. Because I knew they would think this is stupid, it’s just a craving a short term desire in a way, that it would be a waste of money and I wouldn’t have a future with it. I talked to them and they answered exactly how I expected, although I had the money I MYSELF saved, I ended up getting a Behringer BCD3000, Traktor Pro 2, American Audio HP700 and using my room’s sound system speakers.

By the way Im still 15 going to be 16 in a couple of months. I’m not complaining about my gear, I love it, it’s just an example.

You must understand, some people need to find a way to approach their parents, explain to them.

How would you approach them, help people out, give them tips, etc.

Ean Golden gave us his

and http://store.djtechtools.com/startdjing

It’s your turn. Help out.

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What could possibly work better then a calm discussion ? Just prepare what you want to say a few days in advance. And just tell them after dinner or whenever you 're together you want to have a serious talk about something that means a lot to you.

If they support you good, if they don’t persuade them. But of course they make the final call.

Someone else 's advice might be better because my parents and stepparents have supported me a whole lot from the start.
As a matter of fact my stepfather is asking my for months when I’m going to buy some krk’s ever since I brought it up I might want to buy them. Kinda the opposite of a normal family I know.

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I don’t understand your question. Are you approaching your parents for money or their approval?

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@SirReal Im a kid bro, I’m 15 years old only, they have all my money, and also I need their approval. Every kid needs it parents approval before he goes spending hundreds of dollars.
@MyUsername that is one option depending on your parents of course, some parents aren’t supportive as yours. I tried that, and as you can see, I had to struggle, and convince them like crazy, I only bought my gear because my brother spoke to them and even then they bought the gear they thought was the best and cheapest option, although I had more of my money to spend.

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I find it real hard to believe you bought 10,000 tracks in one year at 14 years old. Good luck to you tho!

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Not if you earn your own money. I’ve had some sort of job since I was 12. My parents never told me how to spend the money I earned myself.

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You bought 10,000 tracks at the age of 15…but now you need your parents permission to buy gear?

I’m confused. If I estimate each track was $.99, that would put you at spending around $10,000 on music.

I think you played this wrong…you could have spent a couple thousand on some nice gear and limited your track library to 8,000 songs. Probably still would have had more tracks than most DJ’s.

If my kid spent $10,000 on music before he had a job and then came and asked me for more money, I’d probably tell him to f’ off.

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Smells a tad fishy yaknow

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@alxb @SpeshulEd I didn’t get 10.000 tracks in one year, are you crazy bro that would be insane, and impossible also. I said that I got really interested on my music when I was around 14 and that I have a library of around 10.000 songs, I never said: Well I heard a song, got interested and a year later I spent $10.000 on music lol, it is misunderstandable so that would be my mistake though. My bad.
This hard drive was my brother’s who is a DJ (as I said he spoke to my parents and helped me out), so he had a lot of music already, I used to only hear my brother’s music, I didn’t even know beatport and the other pages existed, I said I go interested when I was 14 and then I started buying music.

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“I was 14 years old, I started buying tons of music, mostly EDM, and I now I have a huge music library of around 10.000 songs and it keeps growing day by day.” I guess that is misunderstandable, so I’m sorry, read my explanation to that in the message above ^^^

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Just do lots of research on the product you want and show them all the pros of getting DJ equipment. Also tell them that they won’t have to hire a DJ when it comes to parties that they’ll have you. That is exactly what I did and it worked:thumbsup:

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so 10 songs or 10,000 or $10 worth of songs
Also 10,000 songs at that young of age… hmmmmmmmmmmm =/

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How successful is your brother as a DJ? I could understand why ur parents would be reluctant in helping you pursue this expensive hobby if they already have a kid that’s doing it and not really getting anywhere.

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Your brother is a DJ. Just mix on his gear?

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@alxb My brother isn’t tiesto but he mixes every weekend, he sometimes DJ’s in clubs but mostly in a small bar and he’s well known around here. No, it was not because he wasn’t succesful, it was because they said that It was just a fever and that I wanted to be like my brother, but I didn’t know how hard it is and that it would be a waste of money bla bla bla.
@LXJ I learned there when he went off to clubs, but my brother DJs at a bar that didn’t have the club mixer and CDJs, he took his gear and set it up there. I used to mix a little with him and he’d show me, but that is acceptable until a certain point of time where you want to go serious and get your own stuff.

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I thank everyone for posting, but please we are getting a little bit out of topic with my gear stuff. This was just to help other lol.

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Do you have a job? Or “your money” is what they give you for allowance? If so, well, it’s going to take a lot of begging and pleading :slight_smile: If it’s really your money, that you obtained by holding down a job, then I don’t see the problem. I’m not really sure why your parents would be getting the money you earned from working a job.

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I’m 15 so no real job, technically it is from allowance but I do some chores and stupid stuff to earn that money, also it is birthdays and christmases worth of money, I did have to beg like crazy lol. If I had a job and earned my money I would store it myself rather than give it to my parents, and If I gave it to them, I should be able to spend it when I want to whatever I want, but that is not the case sadly.

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Basically, it sounds like the main issue your parents have with this is that it’ll just be a passing phase. Which is quite understandable-it’s nothing against you, that’s just what parents do. You basically have to show them the commitment, the maturity, the passion that you have for DJing. Do your research on everything. Look up things like mixing techniques, gear, how other DJs manage their income as professionals, learn how the financial and individual aspects of the industry work. Once you know everything there is to know, wait. Mull it over. Learn more. Show them that you’re committed and genuinely interested in what you’re doing. Once you’ve patiently waited out a month or so, present to them everything you’ve learned. Remind them that you’ve been really interested in this, and that although your brother sounds like a good role model, that you’re your own person with your own passions and dreams. You can talk to them or really knock them off their feet and make a PowerPoint presentation showing them everything that you’ve taught yourself. Bottom line is, if you put in all the effort and show them that it’s not just a passing thing, they may see you as a mature, dedicated individual and help you out a bit.

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it’s not.