I wrote a comment on a Users Post who was complaining his wife kicked him out and he was lamentating it was 'cause he was DJ and his wife doesn’t trust him anymore.
In the discussion follwoing his Post it came out that he cheated on her and that this is the reason she kicked him.
Then I just told him he should “Leave his Bratwurst in his Pants” and that it isn’t a Problem of being DJ if he is cheating and “laying down everything what’s not gone by the Count of three”, that “Not his Passion for Mixing but his Passion for other women” are the Problem.
And now, you know what??? I got a Warning from an Admin with the reason that “I was insulting another Forum member”!!! WHAT??? Are you kidding me??? It’s not insulting…It is talking him the truth, never in my comment I was disrespectful or insulting him, I was just direct, honnest and truth-telling.
Maybe he is just not understanding or seing that he has other Problems than his Passion for Music and someone really has to tell him how he can Change his behavior to get his wife back…'cause apparently it was what you could feel reading his comment that he wanted to save his couple.
But the Warning isn’t the worst…I couldn’t write back to this Admin 'cause apparently sending private Messages has been blocked by Admin.
I never would have wrote this Post if I had the opportunity to write back to this Admin but as I am blocked I hope I can get in touch that way.
im not saying who is right and who is wrong, but you probably have not done yourself any favours posting…at least you still have the ability to post, i would of left it at that
You really think I should be thankfull that I still have the right to post??? Did I really understand you well???
In what Kind of democraty do you live??? Oh Sorry just saw it is a Monarchy, my fault.
Well I think it isn’t OK that my PMs are blocked and that telling the truth is considered as an Insult??? This is totally anti-democratic.
I don’t say my opinion or that my comment is right…but it isn’t insulting at all.
Using wrong reasons for giving me a warning is inadmissible, and not giving me a Chance to answer the accusation is even worse.
There’s no reason to open a Forum if the other way thinking People are not welcome.
Should I have said to that guy “Oh poor, She’s stupid to have kicked you out, you made nothing wrong by banging that other woman, etc…” just to go with the Mainstream??? NO 'cause he made something wrong and nobody else was telling him and if nobody does he will maybe never recognize that he is the Problem not his Hobby.
You’re on the internet, you shouldn’t take this stuff to heart. This forum is so relaxed in terms of warnings and suspensions compared to others anyways, I wouldn’t sweat it.
As far as the democracy comments go, I always have me a giggle when users feel this way on privately owned websites. You either follow their rules or get the boot… And I’m saying that generally for most, if not all forums.
It’s one thing to suggest to the poster that perhaps his own actions caused the issue, it’s another to tell the poster to keep his bratwurst in his pants. You may deep that as direct and to-the-point, while others may deem it as insulting to the poster.
How you present yourself - especially online when body language, tone of voice, etc can’t be take into the context of what you’re saying - is a big thing and the admins are just trying to keep things inline for everyone.
Jesus chillax man, I was just posting an impartial observation, don’t take it to heart, I knew I should of passed of this land mine of a thread. I’m all for freedom of speech and all that, I really don’t think that’s the issue here at all, I was just hoping to talk you down and chill you out abit and save you from posting again before you had cooled off, seems to me it was too soon, my apologies
Regardless of what had the man kicked out of his house. This is a DJ forum, where folks come for advice and to advise. Relationship should never have come into the argument. And when it did, should have been ignored.
I’m admin myself on a forum, and sometimes we gotta step in and keep topics on track based on their subject, sometimes it could be through a complaint. There are rules here too ya know!
Leave it, build a bridge, get over it.
Feel free to contact me directly at matias@djtechtools.com, I was the one who sent you the warning and still stand by it. This is a DJ related forum and the last thing we need is having off topic discussions escalating into something else.
Like others said, relax and don’t take it personally, It’s a standard forum rule to keep the good vibes in here, regardless of who is right.
If this was in relation to my post, reading that would have given me a much needed laugh in a totally unlaughable situation. Let him post that ish. Jus sayin
So you get a warning for insulting another forum member, and then you go post a thread on the same forum complaining about it? These things happen, just take it on the chin, there’s no need to post about it my friend! Admin are here for many reasons, and they do a good job, you need to respect them, end of.
Democracy has nothing to do with it. This is a privately owned forum, they are under no obligation to respect free speech. The specifics of Free Speech means that your government isn’t allowed to write laws that restrict your freedom of speech (and even then, there are exceptions). Private individuals and companies are under no obligation to support, promote, or even listen to your speech. There does come a point where a community host gets so large that this gets grey, but DJTT is not such a huge forum that it starts to be considered a public space.
They are well within their rights to refuse service to anyone, and by extension, to limit service to anyone.
I’ve administered a lot of forums in my life (and BBSes before the internet became easily accessible to non-University students). If you don’t restrict acceptable speech on your forum, then you end up with a high level of toxicity, and while some might enjoy that, I don’t blame the admins for not enjoying it, as I never did find it fun myself.
Here’s a real good reason to just let these things go - kick up a fuss, and you find your behavior being scrutinized harder than if you just said “Whoops, my bad” and moved on. You don’t have to believe it, you can feel wronged all you want to, but if you don’t double down on it, then the event gets forgotten quickly. On the other hand, as you can see from the responses you’ve received, if you decide to publicly get all bent out of shape, you give yourself a reputation in the community that will last longer than if you’d just let it end where it began.
