Well… I have been feeling this for quite a while and maybe Im going crazy or getting old but this is more or less whats happening.
I have been going out clubbing since I was like 15 and now im 29. It’s been almost 15 years of great times making friends etc but as of lately I cant really tell why Im developing these feeling for the clubbing environment… Before getting to the venue I get anxious, like Im about to get interviewed. Thinking about millions of things that could go wrong. Even when I get to my clubbing friends they all seem to be “like always” have been and I have been going out with them for almost as long for the same kind of venues.
Then when I get to the club It’s like I feel someone want to fuck my night and dare I say feeling almost hateful and taking things personal with maybe an shoulder bump or a little spilled drink (few drops) on my leather jacket. It’s like I’m in the need to watch my back and pretty much not enjoying the moment. I used to be very careless and meeting lot of people every night up until maybe February this year but things have changed a lot since then to the worse.
So my questions would be, is this normal? Do I need a break? I may go clubbing one a week to 2-3 different spots. Has anyone felt the same? It there a way of thinking to trigger when this negative vibes are happening?
tl;dr
Can going out to club be stressful? If so, how to make it not stressful?
But on a somewhat more serious note: really, just take a break. If the pary isn’t worth the hangover, then just don’t go (to loosely quote one of the most wisdom packed movies of all time - Human Traffic), and it certainly doesn’t sound like your having loads fun in the clubs right now. Just chill out for a while and only attend the parties which you reasonably deem potential highlights beforehand (for whatever reason - be it the music or the people, both in my opinion being equally important for a good club night). The fun will come back (fingers crossed) - and then there’s always my first advice.
I get this issue that whenever I am at a popping club I feel like that I should be DJ’ing and I focus on what the DJ is doing way to much. I often get jealous and feel like that I can do better…
But I am a person with a mind that goes a mile a minute and all I think about is DJ’ing and events and getting better technique, new equipment, ahha all of the above.
+1
i am the same a club next to my home in england has a shit dj who could not beatmatch and might as well been playing a i tunes playlist the amount he was doing,yet hes getting paid a load,
i think ur getting old bro haha. jp im the same way, when i was younger i wanted to be in the thick of the clusterfuck, nowadays at 31, id rather be in v.i.p.
hit up the gym before going clubbing, that works for me
i feel very violent when i don’t go to teh gym for a couple days. especially no patience for some dumbfeck making some skanky moves or cracking a stupidass ignorant joke. i imagine pummeling his face until it wasn’t a face any more, now thats more funny! and no, that doesn’t make me a sociopath partygoer, just a human trying not to drown in a sea of idiots
Dude…its the leather jacket. Seriously bro…loose it quick. They’ve been known to turn even the chillest clubbers into total dbags.
Joking aside though its really easy to say “welcome to adulthood” but its not like this for all adults. Does this happen to you in other situations with large crowds or even intimate environments? Does it happen at work? Other public venues?
I think clubbing is the least of your worries if its not limited to only “the club”. If its intense enough and impacting how you experience life in a negative way…consider seeing a Doctor, dude (seriously).
I havent been out in years and dont have the best attitude towards society and the public in general. I do however, remember “the good ol’ days” where I was fortunate enough to experience some of the best times and savor the some of best moments in my life…thats why I think Im very picky about where I do choose to go (usually based on the type of “vibe” the event attracts).
Is it just a passing phase or the tip of a growing ice burg? Only you can judge. But keep an eye on it.
